Taking a Sex Therapist to Hedonism II

When a Sex Therapist Visits Hedonism, ll

Being a sex therapist, I have open and accepting views when it comes to all things sex. I can efficiently work with couples, throuples, or any other relationship dynamic. I encourage my clients to expand their sexual experiences, live in the present, and take healthy risks when the situation presents itself. I help people achieve ultimate acceptance of self and help normalize kinks or specific desires. However, I tend to be more reserved. I want to challenge boundaries and comfort levels, but the opportunity doesn't come as often as I would like.

When my partner suggested visiting Hedonism ll, I was equally thrilled and terrified. Would I be able to shed my clothes? These clothes hide my flaws and insecurities, providing me with a sense of safety. There were so many questions and reservations that I could have used as an excuse, but that would have made me a hypocrite. How can I work with clients to overcome their insecurities if I am unwilling to take my advice?

Preparing for Hedonism ll

Preparing for Hedonism ll was nerve-wracking! I was going on this trip blindly, having never been to a resort like this. I ordered all the theme night outfits, dresses for the evening dinners, and clothes to wear around the resort. I started eating very clean and working out more consistently to help combat my body image insecurities several months before the date of our trip.

My partner and I discussed our boundaries, realistic and unrealistic expectations, and how to handle conflict if something arose. These conversations helped me battle my abandonment issues and calmed my fears of him finding someone else better than me. I might be a counselor, but I have all of the same issues as every other woman I know in some form. After eating healthy, working out regularly, and having some hard conversations with My partner, I felt prepared and ready to enjoy everything the week offered. Armed with our negative COVID tests, we were off for an adventure.

Arriving at Hedonism ll

When we landed in Montego Bay, my anxiety ramped up to the max. Every thought imaginable plagued my mind. What if people don't like me? What if my body is not sexy to anyone besides My partner? What if I wasn't comfortable being naked? So many 'what ifs' rushed through my ADHD brain.

As we drove to the resort, I started beating myself up about not working out, not tanning, and so much more. It didn't help that Jamaican drivers are crazy, which further intensified my anxiety.

We pulled up to the resort, and my heart sank. I took a deep breath and reminded myself that this was meant to be fun. We were greeted by a very happy and energetic bellman who immediately said, 'Welcome Home!'. I believe it was at this point that I finally smiled and took a breath. We were ushered to big, plush chairs, provided adult beverages (which I slammed in about two drinks), and given a bag full of goodies.

As we were sitting there, it was 7 minutes into my Hedo experience. A black car pulled up, and a loud, bubbly blonde jumped out. She was wearing bathing suit bottoms, or panties, I never really knew, and a tank top that wasn't covering her large titties. I remember thinking to myself, I could never be that open and free. She was already heavily influenced by adult beverages, loud and vulgar. I just looked at my partner; my eyes were probably as big as small plates, and I believe the color had left my face. I told him; I can't do this. My partner lovingly reassured me, and we were taken to our room. You could still hear her throughout the dining room as we walked to our room. Her laugh was infectious yet terrifying. She was having the time of her life, and I was more terrified than ever. We became great friends with this fun couple and still keep in touch with them.

As we walked to our room with Batman, we saw naked people walking around the resort quickly. I hadn't made up my mind if I would be comfortable being nude, but these individuals made it look easy and liberating. Our room was a cozy, garden-view oasis tucked away in a safe corner. This brought me comfort, knowing that I was slightly hidden.

My Growth at Hedonism ll

I decided on the first day that this would be a trip where I didn't say no to anything that wasn't a hard stop for me. I have an extreme fear of rejection and disappointing people, so this could have been a setback for me if I allowed it, but I decided to practice what I preach to clients and try it. I knew I wouldn't grow in my journey if I didn't push my limits outside of the safe comfort zone I was nestled so firmly in.

It was during our first night there that I stripped down naked and went to the nude pool. This process was quite comical. I would step out of the room, jump back in, give myself a pep talk, and walk back out. This process happened several times before I threw caution to the wind and went to the nude pool in my birthday suit. This initial walk to the pool helped me realize I could push myself and not die. I know that is dramatic, but often, individuals hold themselves back from liberating experiences due to fear and panic. I was proud of myself, and I am sure my partner was beaming.

Each day while we were there, I pushed my boundaries farther than ever before. I was participating in activities I never imagined myself participating in, and I loved every minute of it. We had such a great time we extended our stay by four days! I cannot recall a time in my life when I had so much fun, met so many new friends, and pushed myself to a life-changing level.

Things I learned about myself:

1. I thoroughly enjoy being naked. It is liberating not to be ashamed of my body

2. I can push past being uncomfortable when trying new things

3. I should say 'yes' to more experiences

4. I am lovable and valuable

5. People believe in me and my abilities

6. Educating others is truly my passion in life

7. I am more of an exhibitionist than I initially thought

8. I am good at giving blowjobs

Leaving Hedonism ll

Pulling away from the resort, I felt like I had been in a vivid dream. I was sad we had to leave, but it was time to go home. After ten solid days of being hedonistic, we were exhausted. There were so many times during the trip that I paused to take it all in at that moment, and I verbalized on many occasions that this couldn't be real life. We met many wonderful people who will now be lifelong friends. I now understand an adult playground, and I want to return soon.

In closing, I wish I could have every couple I work with experience a week as we had. My partner and I left the resort closer than ever in our relationship. We supported each other when pushing boundaries and made unforgettable memories as a couple. I encourage you to plan a trip to a topless or clothing-optional resort. I want to assure you that you are not the only one who feels insecure, but that quickly fades away. Please evaluate what issues might be holding you back from experiencing this and give yourself permission to push past the negativity and truly live your life to the fullest.

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Updated 08/29/2024

Dramatically Yours,

Dr. Stephanie

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Dr. Stephanie, PhD is the founder of Evolve Your Intimacy and the author of two books, The Clinician's Guide to Ethical Non-Monogamous Relationships: Working with Clients with Alternative Lifestyles and The Anti-Fight Journal, Fighting Fair in Relationships. 

Being ethically non-monogamous in her personal life, she is passionate about helping others discover their relationships' true potential regardless of the dynamics. She specializes in working with individuals in alternative relationships in her private practice and hosts workshops and playshops at events, on cruises, and through her online platform.

She holds a PhD in Clinical Sexology, an MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, a Licensed Professional Counselor in Texas, Arizona, South Dakota, and Florida, and a Certified Sex Therapist. If you want to work with Dr. Stephanie, schedule a free consultation. 

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